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Believe it or not, this is the recipe for success…
As you can see, the ingredients involved are ones that can easily be found on the shelves.
But, one of them can be more difficult to mix in with the others.
Mindset makes up 80% of the recipe, but it’s the ingredient that is most likely to throw off a perfect dish.
So, what can you do to ensure that it doesn’t become a recipe for disaster?
First things first, coming to the realisation that your mindset might be the thing holding you back.
Not an easy conclusion to come to, but I can help you to get there.
From there, we turn to the most powerful success training program in the world.
Designed by Bob Proctor and Sandy Gallagher, the Thinking Into Results program will help you develop your mindset, and transform your business and your income.
Curious as to whether this program is right for you?
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I can help you build a business that delivers the income, freedom and fulfilment you truly desire.
Stop working on your business.
Start working on yourself.
Many entrepreneurs spend their entire working day putting out fires in a never-ending cycle of reacting to problems that arise in their business in order to survive.
It’s called the Survival Trap.
And it IS a trap because as we respond to what is urgent rather than what is important, we get the immediate satisfaction of fixing a problem. We live to fight another day but there is no long-term benefit.
Surviving is not thriving. And what’s stopping you from thriving is YOU.
Entrepreneurs often become comfortable with the grind of long hours, so they keep doing the things that keep them in their comfort zone.
But if you want your business to succeed you must get out of your own way.
You need to stop working so hard and take time to work on yourself: examine your beliefs, your perspective, your habits and your behaviours.
You need to analyse what elements of your psychology are holding you back and work on changing them…
It may not be comfortable, but it is 100% necessary if you want to build a solid foundation for success.
Do you recognise how important it is to regularly take the time to work on yourself?
I help entrepreneurs and go–getters turn their dreams into reality.
I can help you build a business that delivers the income, freedom and fulfilment you truly desire.
One day, a professor entered his classroom and asked his students to prepare for a surprise test. They all waited anxiously at their desks for the exam to begin.
The professor handed out the exams with the text facing down, as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked the students to turn over the papers.
To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions – just a black dot in the centre of the paper.
The professor, seeing the expression on everyone’s faces, told them the following: “I want you to write about what you see there.”
The students, confused, got started on this odd task.
At the end of the class, the professor took all the exams and started reading each one of them out loud in front of all the students.
All of them, without exception, defined the black dot, trying to explain its position in the centre of the sheet.
After all had been read, the classroom silent, the professor spoke.
“I’m not going to grade you on this,” he said. “I just wanted to give you something to think about.
Not one of you wrote about the white part of the paper.
Everyone focused on the black dot – and the same thing happens in our lives.
We insist on focusing only on the black dots – the niggly health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the business problems, the betrayal by a friend.
The dark spots are very small when compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds.”
Take your eyes away from the black dots in your lives.
Enjoy each one of your blessings, each moment that life gives you.
Be happy and live a life filled with love.
I help entrepreneurs and go–getters turn their dreams into reality.
I can help you build a business that delivers the income, freedom and fulfilment you truly desire.
Being an entrepreneur is notoriously tough, especially when starting out as people sometimes find it hard to change their perception of you and may not take you seriously.
I think this is a great little story that illustrates why you shouldn’t pay attention to what they think and have the confidence to value yourself highly and find others who value you as well.
A father said to his daughter, “You have graduated with honours, here is a car I bought many years ago. It is pretty old now.
But before I give it to you, take it to the used car lot downtown and tell them I want to sell it and see how much they offer you for it.”
The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said, “They offered me $1,000 because they said it looks pretty worn out.”
“Okay,” the father said. “Now take it to the pawn shop.”
The daughter went to the pawn shop, returned to her father and said, ”The pawn shop offered only $100 because it is an old car.”
“I see,” the father said. “Now go to the car club and show them the car. Come back and tell me what they say.”
The daughter then took the car to the club, returned and told her father, “Some people in the club offered me $100,000 for it because it’s a Nissan Skyline R34. They said it’s an iconic car and sought by many collectors.”
The father listened for a moment and then spoke.
“The right place values you the right way,” he said. “If you are not valued, do not be angry, it only means you are in the wrong place.
Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.”
Can you relate to that?
Do you even value yourself properly or do you simply accept what others have told you about what you are capable of?
I help entrepreneurs and go–getters turn their dreams into reality.
I can help you build a business that delivers the income, freedom and fulfilment you truly desire.
This month, 15 years ago, I sold a company I’d founded, Armchair Property Investor, for £2.2M.
It seemed like a lot of money at the time, and I thought I was set for life.
Just two years later… I was practically broke, living off baked beans and having to borrow money from my mother to pay the utility bills.
HOW THE HELL DID THAT HAPPEN?
Well, being a lot wiser now (obviously!), I realise that at that time I was self-sabotaging.
I had detrimental subconscious beliefs about myself and my relationship to money.
Those beliefs caused me to squander it all in one way or another. I hope I’ve learned my lesson… and let’s just say I DEFINITELY won’t be spread betting or ‘lending’ large sums to so-called friends ever again!)
To be honest with myself – I was not unlike all those lottery winners, you hear about who become blow millions and often go bankrupt… on some level I didn’t believe I deserved it.
Since that time, I have devoted a great deal of time to my personal development. I’ve studied with many great teachers, most notably Bob Proctor, and I now understand where I went wrong and how to do better.
I know now that, if you aren’t earning the income you would like (or keeping the money you have earned), and you want to do better, the first place to start is by examining your money mindset.
ASK: what is your REAL attitude towards money. Because WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE ABOUT MONEY IS NOT ‘TRUE’.
…It’s simply your perspective.
And if those deep-rooted beliefs you have about money don’t serve you, they CAN be changed… quite quickly as it happens.
And when they change, a whole world of opportunity opens up to you.
What beliefs do you have about money that may be holding you back?
I do like a good story! This one is about the illusory barriers we put up that stop us from achieving our goals:
During a research experiment, a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.
As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fibreglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fibreglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.
Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark slammed into the fibreglass divider and bounced off.
Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behaviour every few minutes to no avail. Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition.
Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.
This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks.
Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually, the shark grew tired of hitting the fibreglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.
Here’s where it got interesting.
The marine biologist then removed the fibreglass divider…
…but the shark didn’t attack.
The shark had been trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.
I help entrepreneurs and go–getters turn their dreams into reality.
I can help you build a business that delivers the income, freedom and fulfilment you truly desire.
When you look at your results and let the results register in your mind, the results cause you to think. The thinking produces a feeling and that feeling causes you to act in a certain way that produces further results.
The same results!
That is the reason why most people keep getting the same results year in year out.
It’s called struggling.
If you want to change your results, you need to stop allowing the outside world to control your thoughts. You need to train yourself to objectively observe what is going on externally without getting wrapped up in it.
Treat the outside world as though you’re watching it dispassionately as you might do a TV show. You can choose how engaged you become with it.
You can then start to respond rather than react and say to yourself, “ no that’s not what I want!”
You then start to think of what you do want. You think those thoughts that create the feelings you’d like to have and those feelings will cause certain actions and those actions will produce different results.
When you consciously observe the new results, you mentally adapt to them and immediately begin to think the thoughts that create ideas on how to improve upon them.
It all starts with your thinking.
Stay in charge of YOU.
Don’t let the outside world control you. Create your own circumstances.
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If you look back to prehistoric times, when our ancestors were hunter- gatherers, they lived in caves for safety from the carnivorous beasts that roamed outside.
They usually only left the cave in groups tooled up with spears because they would have died of starvation had they not done so.
That sort of behaviour may have made sense when there really were sabre-tooth tigers ready to attack. However, tens of thousands of years later, getting eaten isn’t quite the danger it once was.
Yet many people are still sitting in their metaphorical caves – afraid to venture outside them.
And by that, I mean they stick with jobs they don’t particularly like and have no passion for because they’re scared of the danger the outside world may hold for them.
Nothing in this world can standstill.
If you’re familiar with the fantastic book ‘Psycho-Cybernetics’ by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, you will understand that we human beings are purpose-driven creatures and are happiest when we are moving towards the goals we have set ourselves.
The fact is the primaeval instincts that are there to preserve us from life-threatening situations are no longer relevant in the modern world.
You are not going to ‘get eaten’ if you leave your job, yet fear prevents many people from doing it.
We all experience fear – without exception. The difference is people who set up and run successful businesses must learn to push through that fear barrier to the other side where happiness and freedom live.
To use my own story as an example: I started my career as a solicitor in a top law firm in London. For many people that may well be their dream job; certainly, my parents and my contemporaries all believed it to be a good career.
It took me a few years, but I eventually acknowledged that I had made a mistake – the legal and corporate world was not for me. I simply wasn’t able to be who I wanted to be.
Going to work each morning used to fill me with a sense of dread. I used to come out of Blackfriars station in the morning along with thousands of other anonymous, dark-suited, brief-cased professionals, feeling like we were all rats pressed together scurrying down the road worried about being late.
I remember I frequently thought about stepping in front of one of the buses going up Fleet Street.
Fortunately, I always held on to the belief that there was something better and I was free to take a different path. So, I weighed up the highly paid career on one hand and following my own path on the other – whatever that may be.
I looked at the partners in the firms I worked for who were earning hundreds of thousands of pounds a year and asked myself: “Do I want the sort of life they have?” To me, they all seemed unhappy and stressed.
They worked twelve-hour days and had little social life. Many were divorced or never saw their families.
For me, it was not such a difficult decision.
Even in my 20s, I was aware of the importance of being true to yourself if you want to be happy. And I knew being in that job was never going to make me happy. There was no way I was going to spend the rest of my life doing that… even if it was very well paid.
Now, I must admit one of the things my friends tell me they admire about me is that I am quite fearless about starting something new and I’ve done it several times throughout my career.
So, I just decided to quit.
I had little in the way of savings and I had no sort of safety net or guaranteed income just an idea of what I wanted to do and the faith that it would work out. So, even for me, that was quite a bold move.
The one and only time in my life I’ve had a panic attack was when the enormity of what I’d done hit me as I was getting ready to go to work in the new office I had leased and try and start getting clients and making money in my new business.
That was twenty-two years ago and whilst there have been plenty of ups and downs – I’ve built and sold companies for millions and I’ve been broke during that period – but I’ve never regretted it. I was a young man at the time without any family commitments and I appreciate that most people will not have the same attitude as me and may well have family commitments and responsibilities.
In any event, I would not recommend just giving up your job immediately as ultimately it can be self-defeating if you put too much pressure on yourself to make your new venture work. But you can start making preparations whilst you still have your job.
If you are at the stage where you recognise you are not happy in your job, but you don’t know yet what your purpose and passion in life is the best thing to do is some personal development work to find out what it is that you really love doing and then find a way to start generating income from that activity. Because there will be a way to make a living from it and even if it won’t make you rich it you will spend your days doing what you love – and that’s what counts.
The next step is to block out time in your calendar to devote to creating your new business. Be disciplined with it. Make it sacrosanct so that you will not get pulled away by any external distractions. I find that getting up early and studying whilst everyone else is still asleep works best for me but you may be more of an evening person.
It doesn’t matter just make sure you are disciplined enough to stick to it and let your family know not to disturb you during that time. After all you are doing it for their benefit as well.
Focus on studying about both business and creating the right mindset for success. Having the right attitude and mindset is the most critical factor for success in any business but you clearly need to have an understanding of business basics such as company set up, finance, sales and marketing and any regulatory issues that affect your particular business. It will no doubt take a good few months – maybe longer, but sooner or later you will be generating enough income from your side business to give you the confidence to ‘leave your cave’.
The crucial factor, if you are going to overcome the fear of leaving your cave is that you must have faith that you won’t ‘get eaten alive’, that people and things will appear to help you that you would never have imagined that it will turn out alright, if you follow your heart.
If you’d like some help find your purpose just let me know in the comments below and I can send you some exercises to help with that.
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